Warning: hatstand and poorly thought out pseudo-psychology enclosed in this article :)
Some of you know dentists (and non-dentists, this isn’t just limited to our profession) who have on occasion done things that threatened their business, health and careers.
1) They engage in extramarital affairs that end their marriage leading to divorce
2) They bully and sexually harass staff leading to tribunals and reputational damage
3) They slag off all the dentists around them at every opportunity, destroying their own professional relationship
4) They engage in less than ethical business pursuits
5) They invest all their money in things that rapidly evaporate leaving them destitute
6) They fail to save enough money for their tax, repeatedly
7) They get caught drink driving or high on drugs at work
8) They get arrested for assault or other illegality
9) They say the wrong things to the wrong people…over and over again
It’s as if some people are destined to suffer hardship by their own hand. And I think I understand a lot of why this is. People have a certain comfort zone that their psychology will accept. Take money for example. Lottery winners, on the whole, tend to lose it all leaving themselves in a worse situation than before they bought that ticket. it’s because their psychology cannot handle their new found level of wealth, and they feel compelled to subconsciously (and sometimes consciously) sabotage themselves.
I know at least half a dozen dentists who are big earners but who are also big spenders. Every one of them has, at least once, been close to bankruptcy due to the mismanagement of their money. Some will say a lot of this was down to greed, chasing the big returns on investments etc, but actually, it could easily be argued that this was merely their psychology returning them to a level that was more comfortable.
And it’s not just money. It is also the perceived success. they buy more practices than they need, work more than they need to, and push themselves only for them to suddenly flip out one day and do something crazy. Others work themselves close to death and end up with a health crisis.
Some of you reading this now are heading for the bad times, because you are doing things you shouldn’t, and refuse to do things you should. Deep down many of you know that you are heading for this abyss, but you carry on regardless, refusing to face the reality that life is showing to you.
How many of them have a loving partner, children that they adore…only to sleep around and risk it all.
There is little we can do to help these people because some people are destined to be “the warning” rather than “the example”. And if you can’t help them, you just need to make sure they don’t take you down with them.
That’s the way it looks from here.
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Dr Stephen Hudson BDS, MSc, PGD Med law, PGC Dental Law & Ethics