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Many years ago I did a Tony Robbins course called Unleash the Power Within. It was great fun, and many people have claimed it is life changing. Well it might have been for them, but although I might have thought it was at the time, for me it wasn’t.
Through that I got into NLP, and did lots of courses which proclaimed to teach me lots of fancy techniques to deal with this issue and that. But in hindsight, much of what I learnt was pretty much useless on a day to day level (perhaps it wasn’t taught well). That’s my opinion by the way, and many people will disagree with me. And you know what, many of the biggest advocates for NLP that I have met are the ones who either completely abuse it (NLPeeing on people) or seem to be 2 brackets short of an orthodontic appliance. Fortunately there are notable exceptions of course, many of them doing lots of good for and within the the dental community.
Then I learnt of a technique called Havening, which is a much simpler, easier and quicker technique than all the others combined, and I wondered why I hadn’t discovered it years ago. It would have saved me a fortune, because it seems to actually work. Ah but then there is the old saying “when the student is ready, the teacher will appear”.
But that’s not what this newsletter is really about. We are here to discuss the enemy, the dark force that is ripping the heart out of your life and threatening you and countless others to an unfulfilling career and a miserable existence.
So who is the enemy?
Well it’s not the GDC. Seriously. And it’s not Osbourne, it’s not the CQC and its not even PRS. The enemy I’m afraid, is probably you.
What the bloody hell are you talking about Hudson?
Well think about it, who owns the little voice in your mind. You know the one, the one that keeps you up at night thinking about all the bad things that is happening in your life, the one that speaks all the worry and the guilt into your ear. That voice is you, it is the voice that, if left unchecked, can riddle you with self doubt and destroy your desire to improve.
Who is it that lies in when you promised to get up early in the morning and go to the gym? Who is it that eats the sugar that puts the pounds on around your middle? Who is it that shouts abuse at total strangers when you are driving to work? Who is it that takes those around you for granted instead of acknowledging and thanking their presence? Who is it who spends money you don’t have to buy things you don’t need to impress people you don’t even know? Just examples, you know I’m not talking about YOU right?
Perhaps you are the enemy.
Now I know random stuff happens out of the blue. I know that illness can strike like lightning (believe me I know), that loved ones can perish and that businesses can be engulfed by fire. But the one constant, through all of that, is you. It’s your reality that this is all being witnessed through, your mind is the filter all these experiences are put through, and the end result is often based on your interpretation and your level of action when adverse things happen. What you do and how you react and adapt often determines everything.
And then there are the good times, when things are going well, when you’ve got money in your pocket and loved ones, good friends and the respect of the community….. and then you, the enemy, come along and do something stupid to mess it all up. There are some people who will sabotage their life because deep down they don’t feel deserving of what they have gained and achieved.
We are the Captains of our ship, the masters of our fate. And we need to realise and remember that many of the painful, impossible situations that land in our lives like Cruise missiles are often gifts in disguise. Many of the other horrors that afflict us are often due to our own actions or inactions. Life tragedies are often opportunities to learn or to teach. Sometime unfortunately, you end up being the example for others not to follow. I know that’s harsh, but that’s life. It will beat you to your knees and keep you there if you let it.
Those who are successful learn that they are going to get hit, and they are going to keep getting hit. They just pick themselves up, they dust themselves off, they adapt, they move on they overcome.
The only time you fail is when you say “I quit”
Do you feel like saying “I quit” today? Do you feel like lying there on the floor, afraid to get back up in case you get hit again?
Get the hell back up, because if you want a fighting analogy, you are much more vulnerable on the ground. On your feet you can move, you can fight back, you can get out of the way.
At the end of the day we all end up in the same place. Six feet under with dirt thrown in our faces. The only question is what do you want to be remembered for whilst you were here.
- Do you want to be a Business leader like Branson?
- Do you want to be a teacher like Gahndi?
- Do you want to be an example like Rosa Parks?
- Do you want to be an innovator like Dyson?
- Do you want to be a force for change like Churchill?
- Do you want to be a master of your craft like Dietschi?
Do you just want a happy life and raise a family the best way you can….which is probably a harder job than all the others combined?
Because you need to decide. Plodding along, going to a job you’re not overly passionate about, staying in a relationship that doesn’t fulfil you, sitting on the couch eating Doritos isn’t living to your true potential. Because everyone of you has excellence dwelling inside. You just need to find it.
Just a thought ;)